A Blow to Dads: 1 Step Forward, 2 Back

Posted July 24, 2011 by jimhigley

All I can say is “wow!

And, according to the responses I’ve heard from tons of my Twitter friends, I think a lot of you agree.

I’m talking about a news story I saw the other day about the Fort Wayne News-Sentinel announcing that they were acquiring an existing, local publication – Parenting in Fort Wayne – and repackaging it for their own newspaper.

The “wow” part of the story is that they are renaming the publication “Mom.”

“It’s the same content moved into this new container,” according to Connie Haas Zuber, editor of Mom.

Ms Zuber said the name change “..strengthens the brand.”

I don’t know about you, but I feel like we just took a step back to the fifties. Get your string of pearls out all you mom pals. And us dads are looking forward to the pot roast in the oven!





  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1444399027 Mandy Rose

    That’s a real shame in addition to being a pretty ignorant move. We can’t, as a society, expect dads to be fully engaged in parenting and then make assumptions about who is doing the work. It’s unfair, all around. To minimize the role of dad is a mistake in so many ways, it’s hard to know where to start. 

    • Jim Higley

      Mandy, I really like your point about “making assumptions about who is doing the work.” I’ve come to assume nothing about every family unit I know. At the end of the day, there’s a lot of work, nurturing, and juggling that the parents need to do. How it gets worked out can – and should – vary from family to family!
      Thanks for reading!

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        Mandy, I became a dad writer/advocate because of the prejudice I experienced when I was a single SAHD at the elementary school where my boys went.  Moms asked me, “What do you do all day?” while the Dads asked, “When are you going back to work?”

  • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

    Yet again, Dads are the underclass and it’s always okay to disparage dads while continuing to put moms, alone, on the pedestal!

    • Jim Higley

      Hey  Bruce! Thanks for the note. Great point. I agree with you….it’s just so funny how hard society tries to make moms and dads so different when – at least in my opinion – we’re more alike than different!

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        You should see my talk at the #140conf NY last month (http://bit.ly/140confNY). Also, please join #DadChat some Thursday (6:00 – 7:00 p.m., PST).

  • Laura Pryst

    I’d be less likely to purchase it with that name…unless it was specifically about being a mom, not about being a parent.  There are issued unique to mom-hood that have their own counter part in dad-hood, but even then there’s no sense in segregating parenting more than it already is.   It’s interesting what Bruce Sallan, below, says about disparaging dads while putting moms on a pedestal, when from my (mom of three) point of view I see a lot of moms knocking each other down a lot, mom – mom bullying is very out of control, and putting involved dads on a pedestal such that if you leave your house with your children you are a God among men.  You’d think at some point we’d learn that parenting isn’t merely about mom or dad or moms or dads it about all guardian grownups.

    • Jim Higley

      So true Laura. Sure there are some topics specific to each gender…..but the bulk of all of this is – as you put it – just about the guardian grownup stuff. Thanks for reading!