Giving our Children Memories

Posted April 22, 2011 by jimhigley

For some reason, I’ve been looking at this rock a lot the last few days. It was a gift from some close friends many years ago. And, it’s one of my favorite keepsakes.

But lately, it’s been reminding me of something that I was told soon after I became a dad for the first time. I don’t know who said this. I don’t know if it was something I read. But I do remember it registering with me as something worth holding onto:

Our most important job as parents is to give our children memories.

When I first heard those words, I thought about Kodak moments. Happy, cheery memories.

But the longer I’ve been a dad, the more I’ve come to understand that it’s ALL about giving kids memories. Memories of values. Memories of how to treat others. Memories of what’s right and wrong. Memories of having priorities. Memories of how to face adversity. Memories that forever etch within their minds what it is like to be a person of character. And conviction.

And yes, memories of happy, joy-filled times.

The more I think about parenting like that, the simpler – and more awesome – this journey becomes.

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  • Stacey Nerdin @ Tree, Root, and Twig

    I think we touched on this briefly during our lunch conversation at Mom 2.0, and I couldn't agree more. It's that idea (to me) that my children exist beyond me and are not extensions of or smaller, younger versions of me. They deserve their own histories, and as you say, memories. So, so true! Thanks for sharing this.


    Hi, we just met on Twitter, thanks for the follow, I'm enjoying your blog. Love this post. I'm a mum of two expecting a 3rd and to help the kids through the change period, we're writing a journal where they write just 1-3 sentences together each evening about what we enjoyed in the day. Their favourite times of day are sometimes parties & balloons, but more often comfortable family time. They've really surprised me.