Pass the Tissue, Please

Posted April 20, 2011 by jimhigley

Last night I met with my first, official book club – an awesome group of young women in a neighboring town, Glenview.

I think I really like this book club gig. It’s usually a lot of moms who are just happy to be together, enjoy a night away from the routine, and are very willing to share their thoughts and opinions. My kind of people.

But I think I made a major blunder in the first three minutes of last night’s talk. Or at least that’s what I thought as I saw a few of the moms pass around a box of tissue to each other. Oops!

The conversations started when someone mentioned that the book largely seemed like a tribute to my mom. My response, of course, focused on how strong a role my mom had on me – even though she died when I was quite young. Then, I brilliantly asked the room if they happened to read my shout out to my mom in the “Acknowledgments” of the book.

A few hadn’t. So I pulled out page 197 and read:

“…and Mom, I hope this book just goes to show parents everywhere that, in a few short years, you truly can give your child a lifetime of lessons.”

My first book club!

And then the tissue box came out.

I sat there and realized how important it is for all of us to validate each other. Be us parents. Children. Co-workers. People fighting adversity. We all have stuff. And I’m sure many of us wonder if what we do matters.

My opinion is this. If you are connecting to someone or something, the answer is a resounding YES!

What you do matters. Even when people forget to tell you!

And throughout the next couple hours, I couldn’t help but think often of my mom. She would have been proud. Not so much of me. But of this collection of ten beautiful, nurturing moms.

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If you have a book club or know of a book club that may be interested in my book, let me know! I promise not to make them cry!
  • Footprints of Peace

    Loved the post!

  • pamparker

    Congrats – and good luck. I don't think you're going to have trouble connecting w/more book clubs! If you end up planning a swing in the Milwaukee area, let me know. 🙂

  • Jim Higley is the Bobblehead Dad – writer, speaker, life observer and cancer warrior.

    Thanks Footprints of Peace! and Pam- Milwaukee isn't far away! Are you in a book club?