Posted January 7, 2015 by jimhigley
(This is the third installment in a six-month journey of self-discovery. Thanks for joining me. Already this week, I’ve shared the Prologue and Introduction to my book, “Bobblehead Dad: 25 Lessons I Forgot I Knew.” Today I share some new thoughts on the my journey from ten years ago. Starting next week, I’ll share one of the book’s 25 chapters each week. On Mondays I will share the full chapter – unedited. On Tuesdays, I will share some background on that chapter and a few thought questions for you to think about. On Wednesdays, I’ll share a new story focusing on the lesson of the week – kind of an update of what the last ten years have taught me).
I want it all. And I admit it. But before you judge me, let me explain what “it” is.
The other day, my friend, Anne posted this on her Facebook wall:
My 2015 pledge…the world needs as much kindness as it can get. I’m participating in this ‘Pay it Forward’ initiative: The first five people who comment on this status with “I’m in” will receive a surprise from me at some point during 2015 – anything from a book, a ticket, something home-grown, homemade, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy.
I read Anne’s post on a plane – about 30,000 feet over Colorado and without thinking twice, replied with a big, ole Rocky Mountain High – “I’m in!”
Because I’ve learned to want – and expect – it all.
And that’s what this 25 week journey is all about. That’s what my entire book, Bobblehead Dad: 25 Life Lessons I Forgot I Knew is all about.
Over the coming 25 weeks, I’m going to share with you 25 individual stories from my life. Everyday stories that – by themselves might appear rather mundane. But I’m going to reveal to you how those experiences ultimately evolved into some of the most important life lessons I ever received -the ones I forgot I knew.
But that revelation – by itself – is only half the story. The half that says, “Keep your eyes and ears open – because you never know what moment or experience in your life might be a game-changer.”
It’s the other half, however, where I find inspiration. Each and every day. That’s the half that says, “Keep our eyes and ears open – because you never know when you may have the opportunity to change another person’s life.”
Between you and me – the second half is my favorite.
And that’s why I want it all. “It” being a life lived where I both give and receive. A life where I am so in the present that I am constantly open to receiving gifts and lessons – and share gifts and lessons. This thing called life is a two-way contract, isn’t it? Relationships are give and take, right? What I hope you’ll come to see and believe in the coming 25 weeks is this incredible truth that many of life’s golden nuggets take place in simple, vanilla moments. By coming to passionately believe that – it’s made me a happier and more content parent. Why? Because much of parenting is mundane, isn’t it? Well, my own personal journey of rediscovery helped me reframe how I look at those mundane moments.
Now? I see them as the moments filled with potential. Moments that my own children will possibly – and hopefully – refer to some day as the home base of some of their life lessons.
And you know what? It makes those mundane moments pretty valuable to me.
So that’s where we’re going over the next 25 weeks. I’m going to show you how I found the value in some of my vanilla moments. And I hope that will help you rediscover some of yours.
More importantly, I hope it’s going to reframe how your look at your life. And your valuable self.
Perhaps it will help you see opportunities like Anne’s offer on Facebook – or any kind of hand being extended to you – as something you want. Keep your eyes and ears open. Give. And receive. It’s a pretty fun way to live.
See you next Monday.