Thought Catalog: A Message to Daughters About Their Future Mate

Posted June 7, 2014 by jimhigley

Film Title: Knocked Up

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Screen Shot 2014-06-05 at 7.13.42 AMThis started out as a letter to my 20-something-year-old daughter. But feel free to jump into the conversation. While I try to never give unsolicited advice — especially to my adult kids — there’s something that is really weighing on my mind. So, if you chose to keep reading, consider this a message from Dad to all you daughters out there.

It’s about the guy who’s going to be the future father of your children.

Be he your husband, your boyfriend or your partner, I just care that he’s the man who’s going to be called “Dad” by the same little kid who will also be calling you “Mom.”

I know, I know. You’re wondering why I’m worrying about this when you’re not even close the world of parenthood.

Let me rewind. (READ MORE…)

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  • Bring Chivalry Back

    Very nice and on-point article, Jim. The choices women make regarding the men in their lives have repercussions. All too many girls seem to be chasing bad boys, those with fast cars or slick looks. Maybe that’s understandable at a certain time of growing up when discovering things about yourself. But you are right that for the longer haul, wiser choices will bring longer-lasting benefits – whether it is husband or a child’s father who will stay committed to being involved. I am looking to bring the practice of chivalry back, and I think girls and women would be wise to look at guys who practice it with sincerity (i.e. toward all women, not just ones they hope to pick up) as a way of seeing a bit of his character on display. I invite you to check out my blog at

    Best regards,
    John Rasiej